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3 Tips on Handling Stress

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Do you think you’re suffering from stress? Well let me tell you now; you really don’t want to be. You might think there is Fotolia_1597792_Snothing you can do about it, but there is and you must!

Let me tell you why, or remind you if you’ve heard it before, because it’s so important.

Stress can cause:

  • Heart disease
  • Sleeplessness
  • Sexual problems
  • Overeating
  • Drinking too much
  • Loss of concentration
  • Stomach upsets.

Research has been telling us for some time that many, if not most of our illnesses can be related to stress.

When you get stressed, one of the chemicals that are released into your bloodstream is called Cortisol; sometimes known as the Stress Hormone. High levels of Cortisol can lead to diabetes and skin problems.  There is also a suggestion that Cortisol attacks your immune system and leaves you vulnerable to many of the bugs and viruses that come along. This also includes cancer.

So if you’ve ever suffered from skin complaints or perhaps too many colds, it could very well be the results of stress.

I don’t want to scare you death or give you any more stress, I just want you to – think.

Here are 3 tips:

1. You can change the way you interpret and react to the situation.

The way you see the situation is based on your values, your beliefs, your culture, and how you were brought up.

You tend to believe that the way you see the situation is the correct and proper way, and that you are right.

The way the other person sees the situation is based on their values, beliefs, culture, and how they were brought up. And of course, they believe that they are right.

If these values and beliefs are similar and in line with your values and beliefs, then you will have a good situation.

However, if their values and beliefs are different from yours, then you may have a difficult situation that gives you stress.

Other people do not necessarily see the world as you see it – they see it differently.

If you react to the situation and are hooked by the other person’s behaviour; then you are in danger of being stressed.

It is important not to react to the situation, and accept their point of view. This is not about agreeing; it’s about thinking and understanding the other person’s viewpoint.

2. You can change the situation or other people. You communicate and be assertive.

Assertive communication can make all the difference to your personal success and your ability to minimise stress. It’s more that just learning to talk in a different way. It’s about:

Thinking positively- Feeling confident – Behaving Assertively

To develop your assertive communication you don’t have to change your personality – only your behaviour and thoughts.

In assertiveness training we talk about submissive, aggressive and assertive behaviour. Submissive and aggressive behaviour relates to your inbuilt fight or flight programmes that rescue you from problem situations.

Assertive behaviour will help you communicate clearly and confidently your needs wants and feelings to other people without abusing in any way their human rights.

This is a positive response in any situation that is potentially stressful for you. It makes it clear to the other person what you are unhappy about, and what you are not prepared to accept. It allows you to state your case calmly and clearly.

3. You can walk away from the situation and/or the relationship

You may not be able to change some stressful situations. It could be your work situation, your relationships or your family life. It is not always easy to walk away however you have to consider yourself, your health and welfare.

Points 1 and 2 are much more preferable actions to take, however ask your self the following:

  • Do you lie awake at night worrying about tomorrow?
  • Do you feel impatient or irritable?
  • Is your life full of crises – are you always having rows with other people?
  • Do you have difficulty concentrating?
  • Do you often suffer from butterflies in the stomach, sweaty palms, a dry throat or a thumping heart?
  • Are you tense – is your neck knotted-up?

I read a lot about stress some years ago and made a personal decision to decrease my levels of the bad stuff. When situations occur that are potentially stressful, I go into thinking mode to resolve it. I don’t say – ‘Oh no!’ I say – ‘Deal with it!’

I want to live a long and healthy life and I’m not prepared to let stress affect that; I recommend you do the same.

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