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One Reason You Get Nervous

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What makes you nervous?

There are many situations on our lives where nerves can be a problem and sometimes they get the better of us.

Where did he go?

I was at a wedding a few years back in the UK. And like most weddings, the best man was there in the church, doing his duty, beside the groom.

However, when we arrived at the reception – no best man! He’d gone AWOL, done a runner, back to Canada where he came from.

Luckily someone stood in for him, and I’m glad they didn’t ask me – I’d want to be paid!Fotolia_21705786_S-203x3001

Me also

It sometimes surprises people when I tell them I get slightly nervous before a speaking or training event. They seem to think that because I’ve been doing it for over twenty years, nervousness would no longer be an issue. You wanna bet?

“Nerves” is a normal human emotion and as I often say – ‘I’d be nervous if I wasn’t nervous!’

However, it’s how you handle the nerves that will determine your success in what ever it is you do.

One of the reasons you get nervous

One of the biggest fears for humans is the fear of rejection and we’ll do almost anything to avoid it. It stops people making speeches, contacting customers, asking for the order, or even asking someone out on a date.

Successful people feel the fear of rejection but they don’t allow it to paralyse them. They take action even although they feel uncomfortable. And of course, the more you do it the less uncomfortable you feel.

In the many challenges you face in life you won’t “win them all” but you must have the courage to try. I read somewhere that – ‘winners make mistakes but losers never do.’

That’s because winners have the courage to try and they know they’ll make mistakes; however that’s how they learn and move forward.

I make mistakes allllllll the time!

What do you think?

Get in touch – alan@themotivationdoctor.com

 
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